FOUR FOR FRIDAY 28: SPIRITUALITY

"Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can."

– Arthur Ashe 

1. How, When, Where

As part of the FOURM First Friday check-in, I’ve found these three questions incredibly helpful for exploring what connecting to God, Spirit, or your higher self might look like:

What is your how?

How do you connect to Spirit? What activities or practices allow you to do so? When was the last time you felt completely connected to your inner self? Reflect on what enables that connection.

What is your when?

Are there specific times when you feel more connected than others? When do these moments typically occur—during a certain time of day, a particular season, or even a specific phase of the month?

What is your where?

Where do you feel most connected to your source? Where is your physical body during these moments? What is the environment like? What settings allow you to feel that connection most deeply?

Even reflecting on these questions—without taking immediate action—can deepen your awareness, insight, and connection. It may help clarify what these meaningful moments of connection could look like for you in the future.

2. Working Backwards

I remember reading about this concept in a book called Mind Gym. It introduced an idea that stood out to me profoundly. According to the book, the greatest and most successful people tend to think in this way.

What’s the concept, you ask? It’s called “thinking backwards.”

The idea is simple: start by imagining what you want to achieve. Think big—some of your largest dreams, the things that truly light you up. What are they? Write them down. Yes, put them in front of you. Don’t just keep them in your mind—there’s no accountability when they’re stuck in your head.

If you’ve been feeling lethargic or stagnant, I can almost guarantee you might be someone who thinks about goals but doesn’t write them down. No knock, just calling it how it is. Try something new to get new results.

With that in mind, take your big goal and start working backwards. Break it down step by step. Keep going, breaking it into smaller and smaller steps, until you arrive at the very next step right in front of you.

This process is often called “thinking backwards” or “mapping.” It’s a strategy that’s been attributed to individuals like Michael Jordan and other high achievers to help them accomplish their biggest goals.

3. Consistency

Consistency is a word that often separates the crowd. I’ve found it creates one of the largest gaps in life between individuals.

Spirituality is no exception. There have been many times in my life when I’ve fallen off the wagon. As James Clear mentions in Atomic Habits: “Miss one day, no harm, no foul. Miss two days, and momentum is greatly interrupted.”

And yet, here you are. I encourage you to find a practice that’s both doable and meaningful—and stick with it. The rewards you’ll reap from committing to something achievable and worthwhile will take you farther than you might imagine.

I’m reminding myself of this too. As the great poets remind us: even one step forward today is far better than none. Over time—whether a week, a month, or a year—those small steps add up.

So, I encourage you to discover a practice that feels meaningful to you. Whether it’s journaling, writing, praying, meditating, skateboarding, or something else entirely, any practice done consistently will pay dividends over time.

4. Anchor

Above all else, this concept resonates deeply with me: the idea of an anchor. What is your anchor? What is the word, phrase, or idea that brings you “home”? What centers you—your home base—before making any decisions?

What guides you to a moment of reflection before acting?

I think this is a crucial concept to consider. Some might call it morals, others values, but I ask: What is the word you hold onto, and do you live through it?

If it helps, feel free to share that word with me—it could be a way to keep you accountable.

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